• Anita Chastain

25 Best Questions to Find Your Authentic Self

Updated: 4 days ago

Questions to help you find yourself again and rediscover the peace and happiness that comes with living an authentic life.

Have you reached a point in life where you wonder what happened and how did I get here?


Are you ready to find yourself again and rediscover the simple peace and happiness that comes with living an authentic life that feels true to who you really are?


So what could have happened that we found ourselves living a life that just doesn't feel right?


Maybe we got so focused on what was going on around us, that we forgot to take care of our inner self.


Getting Lost in the Daily Struggle

Life is hard. We often find ourself in an ongoing struggle to manage everyday life:


Caring for our kids, spouse, and parents.


Meeting our work obligations.


Paying bills.


Cooking meals.


Doing all the things that keep our homes and life functioning.

Even in the midst of all the day-to-day stuff, we have to take care of us.

But here's the thing:


Even in the midst of all the day-to-day stuff, we have to take care of us.


If we don’t, we may wake up one day feeling empty, discouraged, and unfulfilled.


Maybe you’re there right now. I’ve been there and it’s an unhappy place to be.


Spend Time Rediscovering Yourself

If your life isn’t where you want it to be, take some time to rediscover yourself.


But you're probably wondering:


How do I do that?


Today, I'm going to give you some questions to help you rediscover that person.


I rediscovered myself by reconnecting with the values, interests, and dreams that I had lost after years of plodding along in life.


You want to know the best part of realizing that I was plodding mindlessly and unhappily through my life?

Realizing that I had lost sight of what really mattered in my life was the insight I needed to make a change.

Realizing that I had lost sight of what really mattered in my life was the insight I needed to make a change.


When we realize that we're unhappy, we can change.

One of the most powerful ways I’ve found to bring clarity into my life is through writing, including journaling. I look inward and write about what I see and feel in the deepest parts of myself.


And that look is revealing.


25 Questions to Help You Find Yourself Again

When you’re ready to start on an inward journey of your own, these questions will help you rediscover your priorities, values, and dreams:


Your Inner Voice

1. Which three people have had the greatest positive impact on your life? How did they inspire you?


2. What three things bring the most happiness into your life?


3. What three things do you like most about yourself?


4. What three things would you most like to change about yourself?


5. What three accomplishments are you the proudest of?


6. What three outcomes do you regret the most and what would you do differently now?


Authenticity

7. What five core values guide the actions you take in your day-to-day life?


8. In what ways are you living - or not living - those core values?


9. What parts of your life don’t feel authentic to you?


10. How would you benefit from living a more authentic life?


11. What fears or other constraints keep you from living a more authentic life?


12. What would you need to change to live a more authentic life?


Creating Change

13. What does your ideal day look like? How is it different from the life you’re living now?


14. What steps would you take to make every day look more like your ideal day?


15. Which of your thoughts and actions are driven mostly by the fear of negative consequences?


16. Which of your thoughts and actions are driven mostly by the desire for happiness?


17. What steps can you take to reduce fear and increase happiness?


18. What are you the most excited about in your life right now?


19. What three small changes could you make that would allow you to feel happier and more at peace?


20. What three things can you do today to make tomorrow less stressful?


Imagining the Future

21. Over the next six months, what obstacles might get in the way of leading a happy and fulfilling life?


22. How do you see your life being different 12 months from now?


23. What steps do you need to take to make changes “stick” in your life?


Self-Reflection

24. What are the three most surprising things you have discovered about yourself after answering these questions?


25. What would you like to say to your future self as you embark on your journey of discovery and well-being?

Being willing to think through the deep questions of who you are, where you are, and what you want in the future are critical to personal growth.

Being willing to think through the deep questions of who you are, where you are, and what you want in the future are critical to personal growth.


But here's the thing:


We won’t experience serious growth or change if we aren’t honest with ourselves. We need to be honest about the good and not so good aspects of our life.


Be Honest with Yourself But Not Harsh

As you think through and write out the answers to these questions, be honest with yourself, but not harsh.


There is no need to blame or attack yourself for mistakes you’ve made in the past:


Blaming and attacking yourself are counterproductive because they don’t do anything to change what happened.

We all make mistakes. Accept them, then move on.

We all make mistakes. Accept them, then move on.


Conclusion

The progress that occurs as a result of personal development is often more of a journey than a giant leap.


Don’t give up during the journey. Keep going, even when the journey feels long, and your steps seem small.


Change takes time. Stay focused, stay committed, and stay the course.


Want to know the best part?


You can do this.


Which of these questions had the most impact on you? Email me at anita (@) simplelife365.com and let me know. I would love to hear from you.

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