• Anita Chastain

5 Simple Ways to Create More Happiness in Your Life

Updated: 4 days ago

Do you want to create more happiness in your life? Here are 5 things you can do to be happier.

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There are things we can do to create more happiness in our life. Today I'll share 5 ways to do just that.

If you had to choose between happiness and wealth and choosing one meant giving up the other, which would you choose?

But first, answer this question:

If you had to choose between happiness and wealth and choosing one meant giving up the other, which would you choose?


Choose wealth, and you’ll be able to buy everything you want, but you’ll never escape your unhappiness.


Choose happiness, and you’ll wake up every day filled with joy but struggle to make ends meet.


What would you do? I would choose happiness over wealth every day.


Money burdens are easier to bear when you experience joy and happiness in other areas of your life.


If you're doomed to a life of wealth, with no chance of happiness, spending every dollar you have on material comforts will never free you from that unhappiness.


Life can be so much better than simply existing in a state of permanent unhappiness.

A $5,000 sofa provides a comfortable place to sit, but it doesn’t fundamentally change how you feel about yourself.

Money Doesn’t Cancel Unhappiness

I believe our quality of life is fueled more by how we feel than what we accumulate.


A $5,000 sofa provides a comfortable place to sit, but it doesn’t fundamentally change how you feel about yourself.


If you’re unhappy before you sit on the sofa, you’ll still be unhappy after you sit down.


With enough money, you’ll have plenty to eat and a nice place to live. You can buy the comforts of modern life.


But there’s no guarantee you’ll be happy.


Spending money can buy physical comfort and convenience, but it won’t end your search for happiness.


A better strategy is to create happiness by changing your thoughts and actions.

We notice and react more to negative events than positive ones. That’s why we’re affected more by criticism than compliments.

5 Ways to Create Happiness

Here are five things you can do to feel happier in your life:


1. Find more of the good in life. Think about the last week, can you something that went wrong or something you wish had turned out differently? Chances are good that you were able to think of something. We see bad all around us. There’s a reason for that, and it’s called the negativity bias. We notice and react more to negative events than positive ones. That’s why we’re affected more by criticism than compliments. And why we worry more about what could go wrong than what could go right. But you don’t have to accept the negativity bias. You can put more energy into focusing on the good things in life. Offset negative thoughts with positive thoughts. It’s easier to be happy when you can see more good than bad.

There is no upside to comparing yourself to someone else. It won’t make you feel better.

2. Quit comparing your life to someone else’s. You'll never win that battle.


When you compare your life to someone else’s, you tend to skew the comparison by choosing things you believe you don't have, then comparing yourself to someone you believe has those things. The result of that unbalanced comparison? You see ourself as the loser, which leads you to feel more unhappy about your life.


Whether it’s on looks, money, career, or some other measure, we always compare ourselves to someone who has what we believe we’re missing. There is no upside to comparing yourself to someone else. It won’t make you feel better. That comparison else adds unnecessary negativity to your life.


When you find yourself comparing your life to someone else’s, interrupt those thoughts with something positive.


Think about something you like about yourself and your life instead. It’s easier to be happy and develop the best in yourself when you quit comparing yourself to other people.


3. Set meaningful goals that inspire you. What’s the first rule of goal setting?


Set goals that mean something to you.


If your neighbor thinks you should plant a vegetable garden in your backyard, but you don’t enjoy gardening, are you going to plant the garden?


No. Your neighbor’s goal doesn’t mean anything to you. Why create a garden you don’t want?


Goals are the same way. If you set goals that others think you should work toward, not goals that you really want, you won’t be inspired to achieve those goals when the work gets hard and you face difficult challenges. In fact, working toward uninspiring goals may make you feel worse because you know you’re not working for results that matter to you.


You have the power to set goals that inspire you. Use it. It’s easier to be happy when the goals you want to achieve matter to you.


4. Spend time with people who treat you well. A long-term study of happiness conducted by Harvard found that one of the most important predictors of well-being was strong relationships with friends, family, and your spouse. The research showed that people with close social relationships tended to be happier, healthier, and live longer.


To improve the quality of your life, spend time cultivating positive relationships with other people. If you have toxic people in your life - people who make you feel bad about yourself or bring negativity into your life - set boundaries to protect yourself.


You can learn more about how to deal with toxic relationships here and here. It’s easier to be happy when you know you can count on the people around you to be there when time are tough.

Perfection is unsustainable over the long-term.

5. Quit trying to be perfect. It’s unhealthy to believe that anything short of personal perfect isn’t good enough.


If that’s your goal and the only outcome you will accept, you are setting yourself up for a life of unhappiness.


It’s one thing to want to continually improve, it’s another to reject anything short of perfection. Personal perfection is unsustainable over the long-term.


You can’t control everything around you.


And you can’t guarantee a perfect outcome when you can’t control the inputs that lead to that outcome.


Distinguish between what you can control and what you can’t and set goals accordingly. It's easier to be happy when you know that you tried your best and achieved the best result you could at that moment, even if the result wasn’t perfect.


Conclusion

Money isn’t the solution to our unhappiness. It helps in certain ways, but it doesn’t bring the deep, lasting happiness most of us want.


To create a happier life, focus on the good around you, and quit comparing yourself to others.


Set goals that inspire you to work toward achievements that matter to you, not someone else.


Spend time with people we lift you up and who will be there for you.


Let go of perfection.


What do you do to bring more happiness into your life? Share your ideas with me at anita (@) simplelife365.com.

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